Relieve My Stress

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Stress can kill. Well, it didn’t kill me but it did cause me a lot of pain. When I first got my new job, I was excited. There was just so much to learn and do! But as the days went by, I started noticing that at a certain time of the day, my tummy would start to suffer stabs of pain. Then I would get nauseous and throw up. I was on sick leave within my first week. Not a good sign for a newbie.

Why this was happening to me was totally beyond me. I was eating my regular meals but it felt like I was experiencing gastric symptoms. So I saw a doctor. And the first thing he asked me was, “Are you stress?”

Well, of course I am stressed! My colleagues think I am anorexic and my clients think I’m a weak dog!

The doctor gave me a reprimanding look and asked, “But are you stressed at work?’

I suppose I was. Stress can affect us in the weirdest ways. Sometimes it gives us migraines, sometimes ulcers, sometimes even a stroke.

Our emotional well-being needs a very good balance. Any form of emotional unrest can cause awful reactions to our health. A new job, a new baby, moving home, a death in the family, a divorce, even getting married can cause us to experience different variants of emotional trauma.

Once our emotional balance goes topsy turvy, you’ll start to notice all sorts of health problems that will crop up:

• Shortness of breath
• Stiff neck
• Upset stomach
• Weight gain
• Sudden weight loss
• Back pain
• Change in appetite
• Chest pain
• Constipation
• Diarrhea
• Insomnia
• Lightheadedness
• Heart palpitations
• Sexual problems
• Extreme tiredness
• General aches and pains
• Headaches
• High blood pressure

If you are frustrated in any way, if you are in grief, stressed with your new boss or experiencing a break-up, you’ll discover that during such times you are more prone to be sick or suffering from some sort of pain. You will probably attribute all these health problems to be ‘just your luck’ and ‘when it rains it pours’, but that is not the case.

You need to maintain emotional balance!

If you have suddenly lost your emotional balance, you need to get it back for your own good!

How?

Here are a few tips:

Lay off those drugs
Don’t rely on drugs to get you back on course. Those pain killers are not doing you any good. Those aspirins only mask the pain. The gastric pills are not stopping the ulcers. You need to dig deep and find the cause. If the root is stress, then deal with that stress. Drugs cannot heal our emotions, we can!

Take a vacation
Get on that random flight and just go anywhere! Get away from the cause of your problems. You are not hiding away from the problem, you just need some time to reset your emotions. You just deserve this time to get your emotions back in balance. Then come back feeling 100% yourself and tackle that issue.

Express yourself
If something is causing you frustration or grief or annoys the heck out of you, spit it out! Let the source know why you are angry or disappointed. If you can’t because it just happens to be your boss or your mother-in-law, then call out some good mates and blast their ears away with complaints. Expressing yourself does wonders to your emotions and to your health!

Balance your life
Don’t get too obsessed with work or classes or competitions. Don’t over train for a marathon or work yourself to the ground. Don’t get too possessive over your kids and suffer anxiety problems over them. Take a breather once in awhile. Obsession over anything in life is unhealthy.If you are spending an entire week working hard, take a day to see your spouse. If you’ve been watching the kids all day, dump them with your mother and go on a girl’s night out. Only you can make yourself feel a certain way.

Seek calmness
Yes it can get hectic. Take time to find relaxation. Meditate. Join a personal growth course. Stop everything and pop in your most soothing CD and spend the next hour just listening. Take up yoga. Or pick up a personal growth book and learn how to handle your emotions.

But the most important thing you can do is to sit down and write down all the emotions that you are feeling. Looking at the emotions on paper will show you how insignificant they are compared to the magnitude of your life. Write them down, really look into each emotion and then come up with ways to counter them. Good luck!