Relieve My Stress

Think about what our lives are like today; all the stress, the buzz, the overpowering technology, the crush of people in the cities, the processed food making us sick; it’s no wonder there is so much anger out there in the world, and all of us need to maintain some form of anger control just to get through the day. Holding in anger and rage can have a negative effect on you physically, and it is not a good idea emotionally to hold in your feelings, however strong they may be.

One of the biggest problems we are faced with as civilized humans living in an orderly society, is that we are not allowed by societal norms, to act out our feelings and vent our rage whenever the situation presents itself. As a small child, you were probably taught not to cry if you were a boy, not to spit at someone if you were a girl, and Lord help you if you whacked someone over the head when they made you mad. Uh uh uh—not nice. Now don’t act up. Well, what happens then. I’ll tell you what happens; you stash away that anger and that feeling of wanting to whack someone over the head one time too many, and one day the rage that has built up over the years will just explode without warning over the most trivial of affronts. Stifling anger is not a good thing; and a good method of anger control when used wisely is the answer to maintain positive mental health and a healthy body.

There have been plenty of studies done on anger management and anger control, and one of the most effective means of venting pent up rage and powerful feelings is to combine the mental pressure with a physical outlet that will give you the means to get the stress out of your system. Sometimes when under pressure, just ripping up papers or burning something or shouting your head off will do the trick; whereas other times, if the stress factors are too great and the pressure is immense, then grabbing a baseball bat and smashing something with it, or throwing dishes or glasses against the wall, or beating a pillow and screaming long and loud, will take care of the problem once and for all. A good system of anger control will not only help you get rid of the immediate problem that is eating you alive; but it will also calm you to the extent that you will find you are sleeping better at night, and you feel better physically as well.

Whatever method you use to vent your anger, never never hurt the person directly who was the cause of the anger in the first place. A battle of words is acceptable and many times you can use effective anger control just by a forceful verbal exchange; but do not involve the individual physically in your outburst to release the anger. The best way to get rid of deep anger against another person, is to have a symbol of that person in front of you (like a photo) and throw things at it, or burn it, or stab it with a knife.

You also need to learn to totally let go of your anger and rage without hesitation, no matter what the source was. To do that effectively, you need to be alone; or in a group situation where the sole purpose of the group being together is to help each other vent feelings and learn anger control. Find a spot where you are totally alone, maybe a back bedroom where you can close yourself in; or even inside your parked car, for lack of a better place. Somewhere where you can rant, and scream, and pound pillows and rip things up without having someone interfering or inhibiting your outburst.

Finally, one of the most cathartic things you can do to help yourself get rid of deep seated anger or fear or rage against someone, is to forgive that person totally for what happened. If someone has wronged you in some way, and you are angry as hell about it; don’t let it fester and eat away at you. You end up being the victim and the loser in the situation, so if you can forgive the person totally and completely after you have used your anger control methods and vented; then you come out on top and are a much better and calmer person for it.

Keeping pressured rage and anger pent up inside you day in and day out, is not good for anyone around you nor is it good for you. Life is full of stress and hardship and people wanting to walk all over you just to better themselves, and if you let all that hurt and sadness and anger stay inside and never let it out in a positive way, you will be the worse for wear. Everyone, no matter what station in life they are, needs anger control that can help them stay calm and unstressed and be able to defuse the stresses in life as they occur. Life is to short to stay angry and hurting all the time; anger control will help you make the most out of life and feel good about it in the process.

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